What does family mean to you?

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What really matters?

It came into my mind, what really matters most in your family?

Well I don’t know in my case. My mom always tells things that are not acceptable in my own opinion. My mom always tells me that I don’t have a sound brain. I don’t give them money to spend. I look like a rug in her eyes. I look like older than she is.

Well, my mom always compares me with my sister who graduated in good school and had his 1st baby immediately after graduation. She supported my sister from the start up to her graduation. Me? Since, according to her, I am a “prodigal” daughter, lives my own life. After having a baby in the age of 18, I tried to have my own luck in everything I do till the day my daughter and me got separated. They took her away from me. I focused in school and graduated college when I was 23, irregular classes, part time jobs and helping my youngest brother who was staying with me since his Grade 6 year. I started as a cashier in mall and applied to a higher paying company. After having my 1st year in that company, I took back my daughter. I am living alone now with my daughter. My family is not contacting me anymore.

What really matters most, is it money to be given to your parents and be able to please them? Is it matter to prove yourselves to them that one mistake (having a baby at young age), does not mean that you are not worth loving for and respecting for? Is it worth proving yourself to them? Where will you prefer to ask for LOVE, is it from that kind of family or from others who see you as you are not your past and accepts you whole heartedly?

My friends are my family. People who know me better than my biological family.
 
Too bad for you to have a mom like that. But anyway you still have your daughters and your friends to count on to.

Well my family is very important to me. Unlike yours, they support me through thick and thin and they are always there. so I guess I am lucky then.
 
khreinheart_121822 said:
What really matters?

It came into my mind, what really matters most in your family?

Well I don’t know in my case. My mom always tells things that are not acceptable in my own opinion. My mom always tells me that I don’t have a sound brain. I don’t give them money to spend. I look like a rug in her eyes. I look like older than she is.

Well, my mom always compares me with my sister who graduated in good school and had his 1st baby immediately after graduation. She supported my sister from the start up to her graduation. Me? Since, according to her, I am a “prodigal” daughter, lives my own life. After having a baby in the age of 18, I tried to have my own luck in everything I do till the day my daughter and me got separated. They took her away from me. I focused in school and graduated college when I was 23, irregular classes, part time jobs and helping my youngest brother who was staying with me since his Grade 6 year. I started as a cashier in mall and applied to a higher paying company. After having my 1st year in that company, I took back my daughter. I am living alone now with my daughter. My family is not contacting me anymore.

What really matters most, is it money to be given to your parents and be able to please them? Is it matter to prove yourselves to them that one mistake (having a baby at young age), does not mean that you are not worth loving for and respecting for? Is it worth proving yourself to them? Where will you prefer to ask for LOVE, is it from that kind of family or from others who see you as you are not your past and accepts you whole heartedly?

My friends are my family. People who know me better than my biological family.


My family is my life,, were trying to find the common thread that bound us all together,.,we do not choose our family they just are..
 
from your post , look like your mom's care most about you being. if not care for you she will not express it in such way. but maybe she show in in wrong way, wrong communication way.

a thing that you can prove to your family you can hold on and success, just show her how your raise your daughter in positive way.
 
hey man i dont thing so allays moms have some more feelings abt daughter bt it doesnt means they dont care abt us,ya they do ,my mom allays supporting me ,if i m become alone at my side.
 
Ideally, a family is where you get your strength and inspiration to handle all the problems that you will face in the outside world. Supposed to be, family is where you will be accepted no matter what you discrepancies are or who you are. That is family to me.
 
khreinheart_121822 said:
What really matters?

It came into my mind, what really matters most in your family?

Well I don’t know in my case. My mom always tells things that are not acceptable in my own opinion. My mom always tells me that I don’t have a sound brain. I don’t give them money to spend. I look like a rug in her eyes. I look like older than she is.

Well, my mom always compares me with my sister who graduated in good school and had his 1st baby immediately after graduation. She supported my sister from the start up to her graduation. Me? Since, according to her, I am a “prodigal” daughter, lives my own life. After having a baby in the age of 18, I tried to have my own luck in everything I do till the day my daughter and me got separated. They took her away from me. I focused in school and graduated college when I was 23, irregular classes, part time jobs and helping my youngest brother who was staying with me since his Grade 6 year. I started as a cashier in mall and applied to a higher paying company. After having my 1st year in that company, I took back my daughter. I am living alone now with my daughter. My family is not contacting me anymore.

What really matters most, is it money to be given to your parents and be able to please them? Is it matter to prove yourselves to them that one mistake (having a baby at young age), does not mean that you are not worth loving for and respecting for? Is it worth proving yourself to them? Where will you prefer to ask for LOVE, is it from that kind of family or from others who see you as you are not your past and accepts you whole heartedly?

My friends are my family. People who know me better than my biological family.


My family is my life. i wouldn't be here without them, obviousl i know :Smile: Anyway they are the best and have always been supportive in everything. I think they are the most understanding people I have ever seen. I love them and i wouldn't really be who I am without them. They are my rock.
 
I am so sorry to hear about what you've been through. We really don't know why your mom acted that way when you were still living with your parents. What I know is that mothers can never bear to see her child suffer. I know deep down in her heart she loves you, maybe it's because of pride she is not able to show it. She got angry at you maybe because she was expecting more from you. It's normal to feel bad or frustrated about what happened but now that you have your own child, you know how it feels to be a mother. One thing now is, you want the best for your child and you want to shield your child from all dangers through hell and high waters. Let's just pray that someday you and your mom will find in your hearts the way to forgiveness. We only live once and whatever happens while we are still here on earth, our families will always be our families. I have my own share of heartaches and bad experiences from my father. I feel like he despises me a lot and so I decided to leave home and live independently. But you know what?Somehow I miss him and yes of course I love him because he is my father and that will never change. Just live your life and offer your sacrifice to the Lord and everything will be alright. God bless u and your child
 
My family means the world to me they are my life everything i doo they know, and they suport me every step of the way.
 
supahmanross9 said:
I am so sorry to hear about what you've been through. We really don't know why your mom acted that way when you were still living with your parents. What I know is that mothers can never bear to see her child suffer. I know deep down in her heart she loves you, maybe it's because of pride she is not able to show it. She got angry at you maybe because she was expecting more from you. It's normal to feel bad or frustrated about what happened but now that you have your own child, you know how it feels to be a mother. One thing now is, you want the best for your child and you want to shield your child from all dangers through hell and high waters. Let's just pray that someday you and your mom will find in your hearts the way to forgiveness. We only live once and whatever happens while we are still here on earth, our families will always be our families. I have my own share of heartaches and bad experiences from my father. I feel like he despises me a lot and so I decided to leave home and live independently. But you know what?Somehow I miss him and yes of course I love him because he is my father and that will never change. Just live your life and offer your sacrifice to the Lord and everything will be alright. God bless u and your child


Hey mate. Thanks. It made me fell better knowing that my mom loves me too. Yes, being a mom is a big responsibility. I just hope someday, I get the time to feel that love of my mom to me as a daughter. I miss her too, no doubt about that. She is not contacting me anymore. For now, I am focusing with my daughter. I just hope I will know how to let my daughter feel how much I love her not the way my mom made me feel it. I maybe misinterpreted her ways but yes, it also helped me to be who I am right now. Facing all trials in my life with the guidance of our Lord. Thanks
 
khreinheart_121822 said:
What really matters?

It came into my mind, what really matters most in your family?

Well I don’t know in my case. My mom always tells things that are not acceptable in my own opinion. My mom always tells me that I don’t have a sound brain. I don’t give them money to spend. I look like a rug in her eyes. I look like older than she is.

Well, my mom always compares me with my sister who graduated in good school and had his 1st baby immediately after graduation. She supported my sister from the start up to her graduation. Me? Since, according to her, I am a “prodigal” daughter, lives my own life. After having a baby in the age of 18, I tried to have my own luck in everything I do till the day my daughter and me got separated. They took her away from me. I focused in school and graduated college when I was 23, irregular classes, part time jobs and helping my youngest brother who was staying with me since his Grade 6 year. I started as a cashier in mall and applied to a higher paying company. After having my 1st year in that company, I took back my daughter. I am living alone now with my daughter. My family is not contacting me anymore.

What really matters most, is it money to be given to your parents and be able to please them? Is it matter to prove yourselves to them that one mistake (having a baby at young age), does not mean that you are not worth loving for and respecting for? Is it worth proving yourself to them? Where will you prefer to ask for LOVE, is it from that kind of family or from others who see you as you are not your past and accepts you whole heartedly?

My friends are my family. People who know me better than my biological family.

I'm sorry to hear your side of the story..I hope everything will turn out the way you've expected. Good luck and may God bless you on your next journey.

As for me, I could say that my family is my oxygen. I can't live without them. They've supported me all the way and I'm thankful to God for choosing them to be my family.
 
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