Huge jealousy problem.

[VPN]

I have this huge problem with jealousy, and I was wondering if there was anyway to like reduce it. It's pretty bad.. I work with my girlfriend and she was talking with some guy and he was smiling at her and I wanted to throw punches. I know, a bit ridiculous..

In most cases I'm a very chill dude but I'm very protective and get jealous really easy. So I'm just curious on what some things are that I can do to chill out me getting so jealous.

And how would you go about one of your friends saying she's cute, but telling her not to tell you?
I already handled the situation, just curious on how other people would've gone about it.

 

[Mercedes]

I have the same problem. Literally if someone likes her picture on IG I feel jealous, I have it really bad.

Haven't found anything that helps yet.

 

[Pun]

Tell them yeah she's cute but also out of your league.

 

[Junior]

You should just throw the punches and not be a pus.

 

[VPN]

You should just throw the punches and not be a pus.

I would without a problem had I not worked at the same place as her. Not looking to get fired and have that follow me for the rest of my life, otherwise I would've been in quite a few fights already, sadly. The thing is I'm trying to avoid all of that, I don't wanna upset her and start shit with a lot of people, hence why I made this post.

 

[Difficult]

this may sound cheesy but it helped me a lot. When i was in a relationship i was very pretentious since i didn't like the idea of my girl talking to other guys, yet on my part i had a lot of girls that i spoke to / worked with. You really just have to compromise.

 

[Envy]

Out of every single guy there, she chose you as the one to be with. I think that should have a lot of meaning. Jealousy is all in the mind. You choose to believe that she might leave you for another guy that she just happens to talk to. You need to realize that there is the same likeliness that you will leave her upon simply talking to somebody else. You need to realize that your relationship has an equilibrium between you two.

If this doesn't work. Physical techniques to relieve jealousy is deep breaths and closing your eyes as that focuses most brain function on those tasks rather than jealousy.

 

[Kik]

Same! Basically in exact position. You're def not alone

 

[California]

its a good thing. Means you care. Just don't think of it , its not like shes cheating . Then you can throw punches if she does.