Those who try to control other people are, simply put, not nice-and probably have deeper issues, most notably 'Codependency'. Here are some ways to recognize a controlling person and respond accordingly.
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1.Keep track of your relationships. A controlling person will try to cause trouble between you and your family or friends. This is in order to isolate you from others.
2.Think about your own actions. Do you often find yourself altering your own personality, plans or views to fit someone else's, even if you are a strong person? If so, you might have been dealing with a controlling person.
3.Be on the lookout for moodiness. People with moody personalities are often unhappy with their own lives and try to improve their situation by controlling others.
4.Does the person ignore your experience? Controllers attempt to define your reality.
5.Notice people who get frustrated with normal questions. Controlling people often assume that they understand how you think, even when they actually don't.
6.Listen for compliments. Often people with control issues are not very good at giving sincere compliments.
7.They can be very generous and seem to give you lots of things. So you always feel like you're benefiting from them in some way and so owe them something.
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Tips Controlling people often have difficulty dealing with problems objectively and will manipulate the conversation to blame others when their own mistakes are pointed out.
-If you are a person who likes to control others, step back and take a long look at the stress that you may be causing someone else.
-When controlling personalities sense that they are losing control, they can psychologically induce physical problems such as back pain, stomach pains, fainting or hives.
-Controlling people often do not have close friends, and rarely are friends with others who are more attractive, intelligent, or well-liked than themselves.
-Listen for compliments.
-Controlling people often demean or criticize others as a means of building themselves up and appearing superior and in control.
-Trust your feelings and try to be honest with yourself.
-Relationships and friendship are not built on who is in control.
-The stronger a person that you are, the harder a controlling person will work to tear you down.
-Controlling people can be both male and female; both romantic and platonic.
[Warnings]
-The longer that you allow other people to control you, the weaker you may become.
-Set firm boundary lines of what is and isn't acceptable to you when dealing with a controlling person.
-Remember: we teach people how to treat us. If you find yourself constantly "giving in" to the other person, you are not being yourself and are being controlled.
-Just because someone has a forceful personality doesn't make them a controlling personality.
-Watch for people who try to play on the emotional side of you to gain your trust early in the friendship.
-"How did you feel again when you were cheated on? Don't you think that you did something to deserve it?" They will seem sincere and caring at first but then they bring it up and use it to subtly insult you until you agree with them.
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1.Keep track of your relationships. A controlling person will try to cause trouble between you and your family or friends. This is in order to isolate you from others.
2.Think about your own actions. Do you often find yourself altering your own personality, plans or views to fit someone else's, even if you are a strong person? If so, you might have been dealing with a controlling person.
3.Be on the lookout for moodiness. People with moody personalities are often unhappy with their own lives and try to improve their situation by controlling others.
4.Does the person ignore your experience? Controllers attempt to define your reality.
5.Notice people who get frustrated with normal questions. Controlling people often assume that they understand how you think, even when they actually don't.
6.Listen for compliments. Often people with control issues are not very good at giving sincere compliments.
7.They can be very generous and seem to give you lots of things. So you always feel like you're benefiting from them in some way and so owe them something.
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Tips Controlling people often have difficulty dealing with problems objectively and will manipulate the conversation to blame others when their own mistakes are pointed out.
-If you are a person who likes to control others, step back and take a long look at the stress that you may be causing someone else.
-When controlling personalities sense that they are losing control, they can psychologically induce physical problems such as back pain, stomach pains, fainting or hives.
-Controlling people often do not have close friends, and rarely are friends with others who are more attractive, intelligent, or well-liked than themselves.
-Listen for compliments.
-Controlling people often demean or criticize others as a means of building themselves up and appearing superior and in control.
-Trust your feelings and try to be honest with yourself.
-Relationships and friendship are not built on who is in control.
-The stronger a person that you are, the harder a controlling person will work to tear you down.
-Controlling people can be both male and female; both romantic and platonic.
[Warnings]
-The longer that you allow other people to control you, the weaker you may become.
-Set firm boundary lines of what is and isn't acceptable to you when dealing with a controlling person.
-Remember: we teach people how to treat us. If you find yourself constantly "giving in" to the other person, you are not being yourself and are being controlled.
-Just because someone has a forceful personality doesn't make them a controlling personality.
-Watch for people who try to play on the emotional side of you to gain your trust early in the friendship.
-"How did you feel again when you were cheated on? Don't you think that you did something to deserve it?" They will seem sincere and caring at first but then they bring it up and use it to subtly insult you until you agree with them.
