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[Bit]

In a generous mood and wanting to play therapist.

So if you're feeling down and want somebody to try and cheer you up, or help you see things from a different perspective, or anything really, just post here and I'll do my best to help.

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Oh and if anyone tries to troll in this thread, whether me or anyone seeking help, you're just a piece of shit and you'll get some payback.

 

[whatamidoing]

When I stand up for myself people call me a bitch with anger management issues but if I try to be passive I get stomped all over. What should I do to keep myself out of these situations?

 

[Shift]

Vouch for @bit he gives some fucking amazing advice.

 

[Professor]

When I stand up for myself people call me a bitch with anger management issues but if I try to be passive I get stomped all over. What should I do to keep myself out of these situations?

I hope you don't mind if I assist on this one? @Bit

This is a tough situation to be in man. You need to find a medium between passive and aggressive. Be firm. Keep a calm composure on the outside, but let people know that you're not playing. It also helps to be consistent. If people don't know how you're going to react, or they think there's a chance that you'll let them walk over you, they'll try to seize the moment.

So in review, be firm and be confident. Know that nobody can dictate your happiness but you.

 

[Bit]

I hope you don't mind if I assist on this one? @Bit

This is a tough situation to be in man. You need to find a medium between passive and aggressive. Be firm. Keep a calm composure on the outside, but let people know that you're not playing. It also helps to be consistent. If people don't know how you're going to react, or they think there's a chance that you'll let them walk over you, they'll try to seize the moment.

So in review, be firm and be confident. Know that nobody can dictate your happiness but you.

Very good advice, and pretty much what I would of said, well said/

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What should I do to keep myself out of these situations?

Only one thing to add really.

Don't try and avoid confrontations, don't actively seek them out, but when somebody challenges you, be firm, and put your foot down.

If you spend your whole life avoiding confrontations you'll only get walked all over.

A quick little thing to add, is that you may be of above average intellect as those who are often have a harder time controlling their emotions.

The higher the IQ gets the lower the EQ (the emotional equivalent of IQ) generally is. That statement applies for like 75% of people.

 

[Matigo]

I vouch for @Bit he helped me through some tough times, we even have each other added on FB

 

[Bit]

I vouch for @Bit he helped me through some tough times, we even have each other added on FB

Thanks, I try to help where I can haha.

 

[whatamidoing]

Thank you both for the good advice. It will take time but I'm willing to try these techniques out for the next time. (Y)