The best thing to do in this situation is to refrain from a feeling of vindictiveness. We should forgive her, as forgiveness is a divine act. We feel happy if we forgive a person who has done wrong to us.
I will have the guts to tell her she should stop doing that.I will tell it to her in a polite manner and make her understand that she is my sister and there's nothing wrong if she asks for favors or help but she should learn to stand on her own and the advantage of that is it would make her strong to face all life's challenges. I will tell her as well that I am not angry about it, it's just a sisterly advice because I love her and I care for her welfare.
At first I will let her do that for a couple of time but after like 5 or 6 times I will react and tell her how I feel about her doing. I would even get mad to let her know that I don't like what she was doing.
I think it's not taking advantage. It is just that she has no one else to turn to in times of need. I believe we can sense if someone is taking advantage of us but a sibling is someone we have to help when she needs it really badly. As much as possible, if we really can afford it and what she is asking for is reasonable enough then extend help but if she is really doing that as a habit to live without having to work for herself, then try to ease down a bit. Just make sure that you know where your help goes to. Is it really helping her? or just really plainly taking advantage of your kindness.
i faced this situation in my life, i have one elder sister and she dominates me most of the time, i am sportive person and take it easily, but i don't tolerate if the domination is very high and i try my maximum to control her activity
If that was the case, have only one sister, then i would give her the opportunity to take advantage over me, and always be ready to tolerate her, but unfortunately i don't have any sister to give her opportunity to take advantage over me and tolerate her.
i think if i know that my sister is doing something bad,i wont tolerate her.cause the moment that you allow her to take advantage of you, she will do that over and over again.and for sure i dont want her to be in a wrong road,as a sister, i want her to be good,and if it means is to confront her,to enlighten her mind,and to make her understand that what she is doing,would not do any good for her.