"Admit it, not once have you ever felt good after fapping. Especially after looking at that porn scene. You always have that, "What the fuck did I just do?" feeling.
I had that enlightening moment last night... It clicked within me what it is that we're doing when we resort to fapping.
You lack self-restraint.
When you fap, you are giving in to impulses that are associated with the small self, the ego. Anytime you give into impulses, you have just allowed a primitive part of you become the master of you and has manipulated you into submission. You feel bad afterwards, because you realize somewhere deep down that you lack self-control and discipline, the one quality that all alpha males possess. Making you feel small and unworthy/worthless, perhaps even dirty? You got cheated basically. You let the dog pull you where it wanted to go and you blindly followed without putting any kind of resistance to it. So yeah, you're gonna feel small. You're the owner of the dog, you train it and you tell IT what to do, not the other way around. You're the boss, not the other way around.
Another reason you feel bad is because you realize you just saw the ending of a movie, taking out all the fun from watching it in the first place. Nobody likes spoilers. It's like life, it's a mystery because if you knew the answer, it wouldn't be fun and mysterious and adventuruous and filled with heartache and joys and all kinds of ups and downs. It's supposed to be that way. We're NOT supposed to know the answer or the ending.
With fapping it works the same way. We got to the end of what a moment of hard work and intimacy should be. Deep down in our subconscious, we know we cheated. The end goal of romantic encounters/dating is to get to a moment of intimacy in some way. We dont get there without working for it or putting in some kind of effort.
The whole point is for you to feel the frustration of not having gotten laid that night, or not having gotten that number, or not having been able to get to first base. We're supposed to feel that frustration and angst and pain and rejection, because while all of that stuff definitely hurts our ego's, it also does something else. These rejections add up, and add up, and add up. Causing one thing... Anger to build up. We need to feel all these losses so that we finally reach our limit of pain. We need to feel the pain of losing so that we can get to that moment where we finally say, enough is enough. Fuck this shit and being pushed around all the time. I'm done with this being nice and passive. These things have obviously not worked, I'm angry, and I dont give a fuck anymore. This stirs you up internally and psychologically, in a positive way I hope, in such a way that creates an internal revolution, causing you to consider things you wouldn't normally consider before. It gives you the balls you need to adopt a new perspective and a new approach, whatever that may be for you.
Anger is good. This is exactly what we need to feel in order to change ourselves. We need to feel this anger to finally try harder and push our intellect to mold ourselves into a whittier, snappier/faster, stronger, fearless being. Without this anger, we wouldn't be able to have this "fuck it" mentality. The kind of mentality that is only focused on getting one thing, RESULTS. That anger is driving all of your actions and is projecting confidence outwardly. You end up destroying every obstacle that is getting between you and having that sweet moment of release.
That's what fapping does. It is a release, but like in the animal kingdom, it has to be won and not taken by force.
You feel bad after fapping because you realize you just cheated yourself from growing, from changing, from becoming a better version.
We fail to acknowledge that we need to earn things in this world, and if we dont get them, we need to take a hard look at ourselves and realize why it isn't happening... not just accept our doom. (Unless you know... that's what you want)
Then we need to change those parts of ourselves and really strive to achieve them."
~ Reddit user who answered this
