She's Got Bad Breath

I have a very big dilemma. That is: HOW DO YOU TELL SOMEONE THAT SHE HAS BAD BREATH OR ANY BODY ODOR?!!!

One of my close friends has a really bad breath. My other close friends can smell it too. It's been bothering us for months now. When we talk to her or when we are near her we hold our breaths. It is really so stinky, not just the mild type. Even when her mouth is closed we can still smell it when she breaths. Other people are avoiding her because of that problem.

We want to tell her about it so that she could do something to cure it, but it's hard. We don't want to hurt her feelings by doing so and I really don't think there is a nice way to tell someone her breath stinks. I know that would hurt and be very embarrassing. What would you do if you were me? Do you have friends who suffer body odor too? What do you think might have caused it?

Okay, should I tell her or not? I think it would be mean to tell her. But if I don't tell her people will continue avoiding her.

Buy some gum and tell her to have some.

i think you have to tell her,and give some advice that she have to use some medicine or gums for the fresh breath and to avoid from other.

Golden Llama said:

Buy some gum and tell her to have some.

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Yes that's what we are doing now. Hehe. But sometimes it's just too strong for gum. Anyway we also encouraged her to stop skipping meals.. But we never really told her of the problem.

Tell her to wash their teeth and tell her about the problem. I would like more that than spending months without knowing that I have a bad breath. Say what you gotta say, but try to at first be a little indirect. Give him some hints like "do you wash your teeth?" if she asks why you say "nothing" and you change the subject. It's still not indirect but than she will start washing them maybe. Idk :S

flapiz said:

Yes that's what we are doing now. Hehe. But sometimes it's just too strong for gum. Anyway we also encouraged her to stop skipping meals.. But we never really told her of the problem.

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She skips meals? Maybe that's why. Normally, if you haven't eaten anything, your breath starts to smell bad because your body isn't producing enough saliva. So give her some food to eat, or tell her to drink lots of water.

You never can tell a person about the problem he or she has because that is rude and offensive (everybody has something bad).
You can tell her gently in the morning let`s go brush our teeth or tell a little lye about you have a problem and you need to go to the dentist maybe she is shy and that way she will tell you her problem.

david15923 said:

Tell her to wash their teeth and tell her about the problem. I would like more that than spending months without knowing that I have a bad breath. Say what you gotta say, but try to at first be a little indirect. Give him some hints like "do you wash your teeth?" if she asks why you say "nothing" and you change the subject. It's still not indirect but than she will start washing them maybe. Idk :S

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Hahah. I think your last advice is hilariously funny. Ha ha. But well it makes sense. The problem is I don't think I can pull it off. I'll ask another friend to do it instead.. hehe..

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Golden Llama said:

She skips meals? Maybe that's why. Normally, if you haven't eaten anything, your breath starts to smell bad because your body isn't producing enough saliva. So give her some food to eat, or tell her to drink lots of water.

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We think her skipping meals is one factor. Though her mouth still stinks even after eating lunch. Maybe she has some gastrointestinal problems which she isn't aware of.

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donvilly said:

You never can tell a person about the problem he or she has because that is rude and offensive (everybody has something bad).
You can tell her gently in the morning let`s go brush our teeth or tell a little lye about you have a problem and you need to go to the dentist maybe she is shy and that way she will tell you her problem.

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Well I think it's rude too. That's why we just secretly hold our breaths when talking to her. But we don't think she's aware that she stinks. And she's very fond of whispering in our ears, which makes things worst. But maybe I could tell her that we should both undergo dental cleaning for good measures. Like advocating it as an additional beauty regimen our group could do. Thanks for this idea..

it's good if you once seriously consult her. not the way like insulting her. if you don't do it now, she will feel more embarrassing when she will know herself that others are avoiding her.

anna said:

it's good if you once seriously consult her. not the way like insulting her. if you don't do it now, she will feel more embarrassing when she will know herself that others are avoiding her.

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Yes you're right. My friends and I just don't have the heart or the courage to tell her personally. Do you think an anonymous letter would work?

i think you have to tell her,and give some advice that she have to use some medicine, it's good if you once seriously consult her. not the way like insulting her

anna said:

it's good if you once seriously consult her. not the way like insulting her. if you don't do it now, she will feel more embarrassing when she will know herself that others are avoiding her.

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Yeah you're right. So I'm really planning for a way to tell her honestly and as nicely as possible. I'm planning on writing an anonymous letter if I can't do it verbally. I think i can't say it to her face at the moment.

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