Parents Living Together but always Fighting or Separated Parents and Peaceful Home

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It is always a desire for child that as much as possible his/her family are living together especially the parents. It is always good to see the family that eat,go to church, shopping and doing more things together.

But for a child who lives in home that both parents are always on arguments and fighting, there is no more things that he/she desired " A Peaceful Home".

Parents Separation is not good for a child growth because it will affect his/her personality as a person but if it is only the way to have peace in the house, he/she might accept it causes.

If you have to choose which one would you prefer?

Parents Living Together yet always Fighting
or
Separated Parents and a Peaceful Home
 

I used to live in a home where my parents always fight with each other. Not in a day that I could not hear them whining, yelling and arguing. It came into me at that time, that perhaps, it would be better to live alone and away from them. So, I stayed in my grandmothers house and built my own niche there together with my Aunt and her family and of course, with my grandmother. Sooner, my parents realized that they were no longer building a family but instead, a battlefield where weapons are tears, sorrows and hatred. They no longer built a home but barely a house.

So, I'd prefer that parents should never let their children see about the going-ons in their family - fighting and screaming. If the situation is inevitable, they need to settle it once and for all otherwise, children will prefer that it will be a convenient thing for their parents to separate than to experience emotional and psychological instability.
 





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I am sorry to hear that and I appreciate your braveness to moved into your grandmother's house. Sometimes, the parents need to know of what they are doing and how it affects their children. There are parents who merely focus with their emotions and with themselves and forget the their children. I admired those parents whom as much as possible avoid to fight or argue in front of their children. Because, most of the children adopt its environment and apply it in his/her daily life or in the future.
 
Yes I know it is very difficult to live in a house when parents keep on fighting..Me and my husband never talk loudly each other in front of our children ,children always want love..
 
A child has the right to live in a peaceful environment most especially the home. As parents, we should be discreet when having arguments with each other. Children should not see or hear us fighting or yelling at each other. That would be very traumatic for a child. I would still suggest that they try harder to keep the house as peaceful as possible. Separation is as painful to the child as seeing and hearing them fight. However, a couple should opt to stay together or separate from each other not for the child but for themselves. After giving it a try, the parents should know if it's gonna work out or not. I hope they will not use the child as an excuse for separation.
 
Yeah Fighting or Arguing in front of Children will definitely affect the Child Growth and also the big problem is he may go to wrong path in life
 
Children must grow with their parents and not living with their separated parents or divorce because it will give an effect on the kid watching their parents alone and they will learn about getting divorce and there is no respect for the father mother relationships . Even it is a fight , you must be together just for your children to decrease the divorce rate.
 
Human isnt perfect same as family.there is no perfect family,every member of the family is trying their family to become perfect by understanding,loving,and accepting each other. I came from a broken family,and i think it would be better that way than to see my parents fighting everyday. It is good to have a complete family if the there is really love exist between your parents.but it would also better to have a broken family,if this is best for your parents.
 
My parents separated when I was 7, they used to fight a lot before my father finds another place to stay with his new mate. My mother has been quite able to grow me without a father, but I always need to gain confidence with myself. When children are little, "war" between parents just an annoying thing; when they're older there are more problems: for example they could flee from home and so on.

"Separated parents and a peaceful home" is the best solution if the parent who takes care of the child is strong minded. A mom could be depressed after a separation, so her son/daughter gets depressed with her (and this is not good, of course!).
 
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