Once is Enough, Two is Too Much?

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Another story of love lost because of infidelity...My bf's friend immediately booked a flight to the Philippines after learning his girl was seeing someone else.You see he has been in Thailand for 3 months and prior to his flight they agreed to get married.Now we want to help our friend.Initially since our friend loves the girl so much we asked him to work it out with her because their relationship is 7 years old,it ain't easy to last that long.But we found out it wasn't the first time the girl cheated on the guy.Could it be because of loneliness?We dont know.But if you were the guy, will u forgive the girl because of your deep love for her or just forget about her and look for someone more deserving?
I would really appreciate it if you give me your wise ideas.
 
in my opinion just like what you said. one is enough, two is too much. long term relationship isn't worth to keep if the issue's there is cheating.. your friend is still young he can a girl who deserves more than that the girl who cheated him.
 

If she was a girl, it would be very hard for her to let go and move on. But he's a guy, He could do it. He shouldn't be wasting his time and emotions on a girl like that. She did it a couple of times and she could still do it even after their marriage. LONELINESS is not a reason enough to cheat on someone. That girl just doesn't love the guy. She's just using him.
 
No way! For me, time will heal his heart. If this girl could cheat him in the time of being just a couples, she can even do the worst thing. She could cheat him even when they get married. He is a man. It is more painful to be cheated when you are already bonded. Think thousand times before marrying the girl. Once is enough but two is even too much. Think that there are many things to consider before being married. Seven years is quite long, and maybe the girl is already tired of it. I don't mean to judge but I am a female as well. I know how it works. There is a space to fill for them two before taking the decision into marriage. I hope your friend will find a way to move on. He has given enough chances to the girlfriend and yet this girl didn't take care of the chance.

If there's a money involve, your friend should be aware about the marriage because we cannot say how long did the girl cheat him. Support him morally.
 

That must really hurt for the guy. Well, I am a girl and I experienced the same situation. I had a boyfriend for 5 years and he was assigned in Manila for work and we got separated by distance but of course, we constantly communicate with each other for a year not until that I checked on his "friendster" that he had photos of a girl always next to him. I never paid much attention because I trusted him. So, I surprised him by going to Manila without informing him about it. We were both surprised! He was with the girl for almost one year and I was really hurt about what happened. He apologized about it and I did forgive him but I never go back with him anymore.

If his girlfriend respected him and lived with the promise and even waited for him then she wouldn't be doing that thing - cheating him. There is no guarantee that she will not do the same thing again and if she really meant what she says that she will change for their relationship to work out then she must start it by changing herself first before committing to the man again. She must be ashamed about what she did because it is never easy to accept about that certain situation.

Once is enough and twice is idiosyncrasy. It maybe wasted years but it wouldn't be a wasted tomorrow. That situation alone serves as an eye-opener for the man to somewhat consider the possibilities of moving on and letting go. It may hurt as first but try to think of it - if the girl is not aware about the hurts and pains her boyfriend is experiencing she will continue doing it again and again. It will be a cycle of love-break-love relationship and it is not even considered a healthy one.
 

good day, for my own opinion if i were a boy i will find more deserving girl for me and i will leave the girl and shes not worthy for his love. but if youre friend cant able to do that then, just let him be.you can do nothing about it if he's really loved the girl.
 
For me too, I can ignore once and forgive but if I see her doing the same again and again, I think there is no need to warn but just pull away from the relationship. There is no need to keep pulling on and provide them another chance to cheat. That is not fair. I like to see them fair and honest.
 
It's not the first time the girl cheated her boyfriend?
If that is the case,she can do it again.
They say "once a cheater will always be a cheater"
But,everyone can change...

Now,everything depends on the guy if he really loves the girl...maybe the only way to stop the infidelity is,the guy marry the girl and take her with him where he goes.
 
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