my friend marriage life

[meriamg27]

i have a friend who is very close to me.she share me about her problems.im pity on her because she is not lucky to her marriage life.she was bullied of her inlaws because her husband was a mama's boy,so i always find her crying.i want to help her but how could i? only advice i can give to her ,i told her to leave her husband and stop being martyred but she dont want to break her family.i told her if you want to leave him then why not talked to your husband to settle all those problems, but her husband ignored her and take her for granted.what about you guys? do you stay or leave? i know its a very hard situation if we try to put in her shoes,but i think if i were in her shoes i will choose to leave.what about you guys?

 

[anjville]

i have a friend who is very close to me.she share me about her problems.im pity on her because she is not lucky to her marriage life.she was bullied of her inlaws because her husband was a mama's boy,so i always find her crying.i want to help her but how could i? only advice i can give to her ,i told her to leave her husband and stop being martyred but she dont want to break her family.i told her if you want to leave him then why not talked to your husband to settle all those problems, but her husband ignored her and take her for granted.what about you guys? do you stay or leave? i know its a very hard situation if we try to put in her shoes,but i think if i were in her shoes i will choose to leave.what about you guys?

First things first, why won't she try to confront her in-laws about the situation. she is now their son's wife and knowing that fact, the in-laws should understand what she is capable of doing and they should also know the boundaries between their son's life now. She must do a thing about that because she is the legal wife and she has the right to voice out what she is feeling. Of course, confrontation does not have to argue. Try to talk it out in a constructive and nice way. I will do that if I am in that situation with confidence!

Second thing, if they don't have a problem as husband and wife, then it is just a shallow reason to leave her family lest her husband. If her husband keeps on ignoring her about her situation with the in-laws maybe the reason is that he doesn't want to cause any further troubles or the like. Again, it is up to the wife to know how to literally communicate with him.

If the situation is helpless, I might as well choose to leave but together with my kids and with my husband (assuming that he will go with me) away from his parents. It would be better that way. I think.

 

[mjane25]

Sorry to hear that.Well,and why it happens this situations.Maybe they can talk to each other ,because their kids will be affected.And i hope that their problems will be fix.Great that you are the one that will help to your friends.

 

[chachie04]

I think she should have a talk with her in-laws and as well with her husband. Tell them how she feels in a polite and calm way. If nothing happens after the talk then I think if I was in her position I will definitely leave him. I would rather be alone than to be with someone who is wrong.:Crying::Huh:oh:

 

[meriamg27]

First things first, why won't she try to confront her in-laws about the situation. she is now their son's wife and knowing that fact, the in-laws should understand what she is capable of doing and they should also know the boundaries between their son's life now. She must do a thing about that because she is the legal wife and she has the right to voice out what she is feeling. Of course, confrontation does not have to argue. Try to talk it out in a constructive and nice way. I will do that if I am in that situation with confidence!

Second thing, if they don't have a problem as husband and wife, then it is just a shallow reason to leave her family lest her husband. If her husband keeps on ignoring her about her situation with the in-laws maybe the reason is that he doesn't want to cause any further troubles or the like. Again, it is up to the wife to know how to literally communicate with him.

If the situation is helpless, I might as well choose to leave but together with my kids and with my husband (assuming that he will go with me) away from his parents. It would be better that way. I think.

hi good day,thanks for dropping in my thread,thanks for your opinion i think that 's the great idea. but her inlaws doesnt like her because she is poor that's why she is bullied by her inlaws,they want to their son married to a more richer one.