Is divorce good or bad?

Well I think Divorce is not good thing and it is just spoiling and breaking the relationship which is very Bad and also it is suggested as the worst thing in our religion but If the Relationship between Husband and Wife is totally wrong and nothing can happen between them then the divorce can happen..

Divorce is the last option what should resort to should marriage go terribly wrong. I personally, oppose to the idea since I am a strong believer that marriage should last forever however difficult the union may be. But as a broadminded person, if things really gets fatally uncontrollable, then I would opt for that thing to happen. I know there are cases wherein the companionship could be undeniably terrible in nature, it is only when the situation get really worse that I would suggest that. The reason why I oppose to the legalization of divorce is that the sanctity of the marriage would be violated and that people would always resort to that and not on making the relationship work. Take the case of the people in the showbiz world. Celebrities would just get married only to announce the following day that they are divorcing already. I still believe that marriage should be well thought of and that everyone should be prepared to face the consequences of getting into marriage so that divorce will not be thought of and more families will be saved from being broken apart.

Like I said, you really can't say unless you're in the situation. The problem with people is they always like to judge without knowing the circumstances. You WON'T know what is going on or how the person feels unless you are the person.

The problem with marriage is that people change. If you marry someone, they can be someone completely different in 5 years so you never really know who you're marrying. If the couple grows and matures in a way that is suitable for both parties, then it's good. However, that's not always the case.

For example, what if a couple got married. The husband is a social drinker who only consumes alcohol on special occasions. They're happy and in love. However, he loses his job after two years and although he tries his hardest to find a new job, he can't and his wife has to work. He feels worthless and thinks he's a failure. The only time he feels good is when he drinks too much. Unfortunately he gets violent when he drinks and when he comes home to his wife, he abuses her and threatens her.

Of course people can say that there's counseling and he can stop drinking and there's no need for a divorce, but you have to realize that no matter what, she can't FORCE him to stop drinking, he has to want to.

Marriage is not one sided. BOTH people have to want to make it work. If there's only one person who is concerned with making it work and the other wants to divorce, then is it FAIR to expect the person to wait around and simply HOPE the other will want to work on things SOMEDAY? So if the husband beats the wife or the wife is cheating on her husband with someone at the office, the other spouse should simply wait for the other one to realize they're harming the marriage? How long will that take?

Therefore, don't be so judgmental and shallow-minded. If you don't know the circumstances, you don't have the right to say anything.

jethro64 said:

i don't support divorce, why? Because marriage is holy, man and woman, two beings are united in the eyes of God they are one. But what is divorce? Its the permanent separation, it'll bring division.
'What God hath put together, nothing can separate it.'
divorce will only make a trial-and-error stage, hence you shouldn't enter marriage unless you do really love your partner, and is willing to do everything you can do just to save it.

Another problem with marriage is they just have it for formality, just to say their legally married.

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you are wrong divorced shud b legalized as if both couple wanna separate then y do theese laws bind them.

glen_mark_ledesma said:

Well here in the Philippines it is not been legalized or practice in our present government and many anti's are obstructing to make it happen. Do you really think that divorce can help or just worsen more the scenario for every broken families and marriage?

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Divorce is not the end of the world nor can make all marriage life bitter. It has some good points that sometimes even make life for families better than when inside the marriage. Sometimes divorce is the ultimate resort of making a new life so why denied it for those who need it? There are millions of families who had gone through divorce and yet still the value of family does end from it. If we really value family, divorce can be the best solution for making it more solid and strong.

i think it is very very bad thing this should not be happen but unfortunately it happens but i will pray to god that i will avoid

Yes, Divorce is not really the best way to manage the family. It will worsen the situation. WE should be careful of this thing because here in the philippines we protect the family, and through divorce the percentage of broken families will be increased! and that's for sure!!

i came from a broken family.. growing up seeing my parents not together had an impact to me. i felt like i am incomplete. i think divorce has greater effect to the kids than to the parents, especially if the kids are too young to understand their parents' situation. i don't know if it's right to legalized divorce in the Philippines or not,we know how Filipinos value the meaning of family!

I'm not in favor of divorce too.I still believe in the sanctity of marriage.when you promise you need to do the best out of it,and you promise to god that for better or worse you will be together.divorce will just make the situation worse and the most affected are the children.so I do suggest think first before you marry and also marry the right person the person that you really love.

it is better if the couple can go to counseling, and learn how to properly communicate and listen to each other.
And to remember and hold close what it was that brought them together. And value that moment for the rest of your lives.