How can i escape from the jealousness?

I think i hate him cause i love him, my fiance. We quarreled this afternoon cause he "flirted" with a girl online. I just saw the girl called his nickname intimately,then i scolded him. He explained that there's nothing with the girl and the name called by all the net friends in computergame not her only. But i didnt believed him and threw his personal goods. He got angry and said he couldnt live with me cause of my serious jealousness and he has no any amigas since we started our love offair.
Yes, maybe i am ill abt the nerves. I'm so jealous that i want to kill him if he betray me, even just chat with amigas. I'm aware of that i cant do this again, but just repeat it again and again in my life.
If anyone is jealous as me on the love? If anyone can help me?......

phurpa9 said:

I think i hate him cause i love him, my fiance. We quarreled this afternoon cause he "flirted" with a girl online. I just saw the girl called his nickname intimately,then i scolded him. He explained that there's nothing with the girl and the name called by all the net friends in computergame not her only. But i didnt believed him and threw his personal goods. He got angry and said he couldnt live with me cause of my serious jealousness and he has no any amigas since we started our love offair.
Yes, maybe i am ill abt the nerves. I'm so jealous that i want to kill him if he betray me, even just chat with amigas. I'm aware of that i cant do this again, but just repeat it again and again in my life.
If anyone is jealous as me on the love? If anyone can help me?......

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One needs prudencew to keep oil near the fire

It's natural to feel a bit jealous when the one we love talks to another girl. If you're in a relationship where the two of you truly love each other and aren't going to hurt the other, then you need to trust him with your heart and know that he's not going to hurt you by getting involved with other girls. It's ok to be concerned about who he's talking to, you just can't get all crazy because this will just annoy him to no end.

Try and talk to him casually about it and it'll probably work out better. I used to ask my boyfriend a lot about girls and if they tried being flirtatious with him while he was at work. Now he'll just tell me if a girl tries anything with him. He doesn't go along with flirting from other girls but he definitely tells me when it happens. It usually goes along the lines of "Hey babe, you're gonna have to go kick some girl at my work's butt". It's nice when he tells me what happens because he knows he has nothing to hide. You just have to be really understanding and not fly off the handle. Be calm and your fiance won't react so badly.

Im not sure if you think your being jealous try going to counseling. I think that jealously and noffense to you in any way is a feeeling of insucurity. Hope i helped and goodluck.
-Joewongspizza