Favoritism issue between siblings

I have 4 kids, each of them is unique as an individual. I thought I would not have much problem with them when they were still young. Now, I can sense jealousy, each one them thinks, someone is my favorite. They are, actually, all my favorite. I don't know if you can relate with me but I have this feeling, that I like this kid for that, and the other for that. As I say, they are unique from each other. I make sure that I make all of them feel loved, but there are times when they would say that I am favoring one of them. But I know in my heart that I love them all, and that no one is less loved or loved more. How about you, anyone in the same boat as mine?

not actually but i can understand the feeling of children at this age....sometimes i too think my parents love my sis more than me.....its a human nature....

arunaneupane said:

not actually but i can understand the feeling of children at this age....sometimes i too think my parents love my sis more than me.....its a human nature....

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Yes it is very human nature. But it hurts me when they make me feel that I have a favorite among them. I'm doing my best to show them my affection and care as a mother. I wish for the moment that they will be matured enough to realize it. My relationship with them if this will continue to happen will be put in an unimaginable situation. I feel like couldnt stand living this way forever. Although I know this will pass anyway.

Well I did experience it, although on your story I'm one of the siblings. Me and my Elder Bros and Sis experienced that due to materials and attention. But my parents explained to us one by one and definitely solved our problem with favoritism.

Just let the kids understand that there is no favoritism amongst them and give the necessary needs that they need.

CraptacularxD said:

Well I did experience it, although on your story I'm one of the siblings. Me and my Elder Bros and Sis experienced that due to materials and attention. But my parents explained to us one by one and definitely solved our problem with favoritism.

Just let the kids understand that there is no favoritism amongst them and give the necessary needs that they need.

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Yes, that is what I have been always doing. Explaining everything to them. Although kids sometimes can be resistant. They would insist it is not that way. Maybe when they become older then their reasoning would change too. Thank you for your thought sharing. At least in a way it has reduced a bit of burden.

As little I was more favoritised becouse I was younger then my sister. When i was young i loved that but now when I do something really really wrong my parents keep saying that they gave me everything I wanted etc.. Now I wish that I weren't favoritised..it's so annoying now when u know