Love and family should always come together. We all love our family and do everything for the family. If it comes to a point that you will have to choose between them, choose love and later the family will understand. You have to make them understand. Love should be worth it. We are not living in dark ages anymore.
I think we need not to choose between family and love if only people will learn how to be unselfish. God gives us the choice to be with a partner or to be in perpetual in service with the family. Love is what makes the family and family should not use this to suppress one's right and happiness. The family should be the first to understand and share the happiness of falling in love but this is not the usual case as family tends to interfere and make conflicts among family members. The problems of choosing over is making this conflicts hard to eliminate and forever causing miseries among family members.
When it is time to get married, we have to go. Choosing to start a new life with your life is not the end for the love of the family. There is a time for everything. Time to be with your family, and time to start a new family.
In my view both are important for me. I can't leave any of them, but i will try to manage if any problem raised there between them. Or if i needed to chose only one from there due them i will surely leave all of them.