cancer

My grandma is young and I just overheard my parents talking about how she has lost 50 pounds in like a week and I overheard "gallbladder cancer".

I have no fucking idea what to do, my grandma is one of the closest people to me, and if god forbid there is a really bad outcome of this I may do something bad to myself

also lets remember that if my dad doesn't get something removed from his arm he will be officially diagnosed with skin cancer. i begged him to make an appointment with my
great uncle (who is a surgeon) and he finally agreed. but who knows that the spot couldn't have spreaded? i don't know much about cancer and stuff but for some reason
my family has really been prone to it

now after having my closest family friend killed my cancer I have no idea what to do. I feel like absolute shit right now and am currently stressed out of my mind with school

someone please fucking help me.

Hey if you need to talk pm me or if you can aim me:Tony@felon.org please don't do anything bad. Life's short enough as it is and you doing something like that to yourself would hurt your parents as well man. There are other alternatives in life

Boltage said:

Hey if you need to talk pm me or if you can aim me:Tony@felon.org please don't do anything bad. Life's short enough as it is and you doing something like that to yourself would hurt your parents as well man. There are other alternatives in life

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thanks a lot man. i'm still reassessing my feelings right now, what i wrote was pretty much out of anger and sadness

Painkiller said:

thanks a lot man. i'm still reassessing my feelings right now, what i wrote was pretty much out of anger and sadness

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No problem man, just please be smart

There is no need to feel bad about yourself, don't blame yourself it's not your fault and there is not really much you can do other than spend as much time with your grandma as you can and enjoy yourself whilst being with her, do nice things for her and with her like shopping or gardening you know. Think and stay positive whatever you do This may not be the best advice but it's all I could think of, hope it helped at least a little.

My grandpa died of cancer this past year. We were extremely close. At a certain point, the sadness turns into a happy remembrance.

Expect and prepare for the worst, man. You need to realize that you might never see your grandmother again, and that's part of life. You will be sad at first, but eventually, you'll start to not dwell on the bad parts. The sadness will turn into positivity.

Cruzah said:

There is no need to feel bad about yourself, don't blame yourself it's not your fault and there is not really much you can do other than spend as much time with your grandma as you can and enjoy yourself whilst being with her, do nice things for her and with her like shopping or gardening you know. Think and stay positive whatever you do This may not be the best advice but it's all I could think of, hope it helped at least a little.

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Thanks man really helped a lot. Really appreciate you taking the time to write that, I'll try to embrace having such awesome grandparents for as long as I can

Leader said:

My grandpa died of cancer this past year. We were extremely close. At a certain point, the sadness turns into a happy remembrance.

Expect and prepare for the worst, man. You need to realize that you might never see your grandmother again, and that's part of life. You will be sad at first, but eventually, you'll start to not dwell on the bad parts. The sadness will turn into positivity.

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I don't know if that was supposed to make me feel better or not but thanks i guess.

My grandma has cancer on her skin. It was because she lived in turkey. A large amount of her face was removed. You wouldn't know it though because they had a plastic surgeon on hand who blended her skin perfectly. its as if her face never even changed. Quite amazing actually. Talk to your parents as you have a right to know.

Yeti said:

My grandma has cancer on her skin. It was because she lived in turkey. A large amount of her face was removed. You wouldn't know it though because they had a plastic surgeon on hand who blended her skin perfectly. its as if her face never even changed. Quite amazing actually. Talk to your parents.

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My mom is trying to hide it from me right now.
I literally only know because I overheard a conversation on the phone with someone I couldn't figure out (probably my dad).

I'm honestly too shy and nervous to talk to my parents about this.

Painkiller said:

My mom is trying to hide it from me right now.
I literally only know because I overheard a conversation on the phone with someone I couldn't figure out (probably my dad).

I'm honestly too shy and nervous to talk to my parents about this.

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Das weird. Must have an interesting releationship. Well if your so close to your grandma ask her. Dont do it directly but ask her how she is doing.

Hey, brother.

Apologies if I am a few days late, I haven't been in this section for a while. As soon as I read your thread title, I had to comment. I want you to realise that death will eventually come. For you, for me, for everyone. It's saddening and I am sorry that you had to overhear it but remember, as Leader said it will turn into a happy remembrance. I hope that you can overcome this and she can too. I don't want you to do anything bad to yourself, brother, please. It's not worth it, your life is so valuable and you have so much ahead of you! It will get better and you know that I will always be here for you. Please think positively.

I will pray for her and she will be in my thoughts.

Michael said:

Hey, brother.

Apologies if I am a few days late, I haven't been in this section for a while. As soon as I read your thread title, I had to comment. I want you to realise that death will eventually come. For you, for me, for everyone. It's saddening and I am sorry that you had to overhear it but remember, as Leader said it will turn into a happy remembrance. I hope that you can overcome this and she can too. I don't want you to do anything bad to yourself, brother, please. It's not worth it, your life is so valuable and you have so much ahead of you! It will get better and you know that I will always be here for you. Please think positively.

I will pray for her and she will be in my thoughts.

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Thank you so much for the response. She is doing much better right now and appears to have gained the weight back. Thanks so much for your concern bro

Damn dude I hope everything goes alright man! :'(

Painkiller, I know exactly what you are going through.

My grandfather has leukemia, and only has a few more years left, and he's not even 70 yet. He obtained it by going to Vietnam in '69. The chemical components in "agent orange" (a chemical we used to kill the brush and trees as well as kill the enemy) has caught up to him in his life, if you know anything about leukemia. He had been doing pretty well for himself, being fucking rich and such, but back then when our boys were at war, that's all they had to wash themselves were the empty agent orange barrels and he happened to be one of the unlucky guys who got it. I'm sure there are more, but he's had this for a few years now and is on and off chemotherapy every year. If the guy gets so much as a cold or a cut on his hand, he could die. So the only way to prepare yourself for the worst is to help her live her life to the fullest while she's here. Just be there for comfort. Don't be forced to think about the end, think of it as she won't be suffering anymore. Nobody wants to suffer while they live, so there is no point in making yourself suffer over something you cannot control. Just be yourself, and be there for her. It's hard times we live in, so be lucky she's living as long as she is. Life is precious, so don't let it go to waste.

Thanks so much @Sin and @Poison .

Really appreciate the responses from you guys. Things are getting better.

My grandma died when I was 12 because of Cancer.. I remember coming in the hospital crying so hard..