I've decided that i'm going to be posting random relatable threads in this section, and offering advice. This doesn't apply to everybody, but it does apply to some, and who knows? It might apply in the future.
You had doubts for awhile that she was going to break it off with you. When it finally was about to happen, you already knew. But your heart sank anyways, because your entire heart still carried that last hope that everything was fine. You didn't want to break down in front of her, so you just left. When you got home, everything was falling apart. Your entire life has crumbled. The foundations you were built upon imploded right beneath you.
You tell yourself that you're going to play it off cool. Act like nothing has happened for a couple days. After a few days have passed, you realize that something has happened to you. Then you find a seven foot hole of dog shit, and jump into it.
You stare at your phone for texts, and stalk your ex's social media sites constantly. Every guy who likes her picture, gives you the idea they're specially affiliated in someway. You text her. She might respond. She might say that she cares about you dearly. You might ask her why you guys broke up then. She might give some response that makes no sense to you. Then after that, you continue to stalk her for days to come.
It's crushing, I know. I know what you're expecting for me to say right now: move on. But, i'm going to tell you to do the opposite of that.
You can't lie to yourself, the large majority of that relationship was fun, amazing, and wonderful. Think of the relationship you had as an experience. An adventure during life, or a journey in a sense. It has been one giant adventure with this person that you love, but like all adventures, they must end. Don't try to pretend like it never happened, beccause it did happen. Cherish the moments you guys had together, and always continue to respect her because she was the one who gave you such an amazing experience.
Don't make her life miserable because she decided to explore the other facets of the world. The thing is, is that you should be doing the same exact thing. Think of it as an opportunity, instead of a cynical rejection. I know that you wanted to experience more with her before she broke it off, but can you truly tell yourself what you could have experienced with her, that you can't with somebody else? Somebody else that can offer a new experience as well as a better one? Cause you can't.
As soon as you stop stalking her, stop wanting her to come back, and instead, want her to go wherever she wishes, then you can do the same. So, don't move on in the sense that you forget the relationship ever happened. Learn from the relationship, apply it to your future, and move on.
PS: This is probably a pretty shit advice thread, but I'm cramed for time, and I gotta go to work.
You had doubts for awhile that she was going to break it off with you. When it finally was about to happen, you already knew. But your heart sank anyways, because your entire heart still carried that last hope that everything was fine. You didn't want to break down in front of her, so you just left. When you got home, everything was falling apart. Your entire life has crumbled. The foundations you were built upon imploded right beneath you.
You tell yourself that you're going to play it off cool. Act like nothing has happened for a couple days. After a few days have passed, you realize that something has happened to you. Then you find a seven foot hole of dog shit, and jump into it.
You stare at your phone for texts, and stalk your ex's social media sites constantly. Every guy who likes her picture, gives you the idea they're specially affiliated in someway. You text her. She might respond. She might say that she cares about you dearly. You might ask her why you guys broke up then. She might give some response that makes no sense to you. Then after that, you continue to stalk her for days to come.
It's crushing, I know. I know what you're expecting for me to say right now: move on. But, i'm going to tell you to do the opposite of that.
You can't lie to yourself, the large majority of that relationship was fun, amazing, and wonderful. Think of the relationship you had as an experience. An adventure during life, or a journey in a sense. It has been one giant adventure with this person that you love, but like all adventures, they must end. Don't try to pretend like it never happened, beccause it did happen. Cherish the moments you guys had together, and always continue to respect her because she was the one who gave you such an amazing experience.
Don't make her life miserable because she decided to explore the other facets of the world. The thing is, is that you should be doing the same exact thing. Think of it as an opportunity, instead of a cynical rejection. I know that you wanted to experience more with her before she broke it off, but can you truly tell yourself what you could have experienced with her, that you can't with somebody else? Somebody else that can offer a new experience as well as a better one? Cause you can't.
As soon as you stop stalking her, stop wanting her to come back, and instead, want her to go wherever she wishes, then you can do the same. So, don't move on in the sense that you forget the relationship ever happened. Learn from the relationship, apply it to your future, and move on.
PS: This is probably a pretty shit advice thread, but I'm cramed for time, and I gotta go to work.